Relationship Advice for Men: "I'm afraid that I've lost her
to another man!"
By Otto Collins
Jason never ever thought that this would happen.
When an acquaintance told him that she saw his long-term
in the arms of another man, he initially dismissed it as
rumor. But, the "rumor" turned into worrisome suspicion when
noticed that his girlfriend, Erin, was acting strangely.
He began to pay attention to Erin's behavior more closely
he saw upset him. Recently, she has been more secretive and
from him than ever before.
What Jason used to think was just
being busy with a new position at work is now real suspicion
Jason is afraid that he's lost the love of his life to
and he doesn't know what to do about it.
If you suspect that your woman is lying to you and possibly
too, you might be feeling a confused and upset. In fact, you
have already taken action based on your suspicions.
Perhaps you confronted your partner and accused her of lying
or having an affair. Maybe you have remained silent about
it, but you
have been checking out her story to make sure it all adds
What you probably want most is to know-- once and for all--
going on so that you can decide your next move.
Get clear and reliable facts.
It will not help you and it certainly won't help your
for you to go off and confront your woman (or another man)
affair when you don't have reliable proof to back up your suspicions.
Take some time to get very clear about what you do know and
don't yet know. It's not necessarily wise to dismiss a gut
but it's also not wise to act on it without checking it out
It's helpful to come up with a baseline record of how your
usually acts, looks, dresses, communicates with you, is
you and other information.
This baseline is your point from
compare how she usually is and how she is now.
Just because she's changed does not automatically mean she's
cheating. It is, however, a place to gather more
Follow any trail of inconsistencies and see where it leads.
What if she isn't having an affair?
If you don't find any evidence that she is having an affair,
still might be cause for concern about your relationship.
made you suspect that she was lying or cheating in the first
could be an indicator of disconnection between the two of
Again, try to get to clear and reliable information. Don't
assumptions about what you guess might be causing her to
Instead, think about what has possibly changed about your
relationship by noticing observable actions (or lack of
Also, take a look at the habits that you've always had that
finally driven a wedge between you and your woman.
Before you communicate with your partner about your worries
have "lost her," try to be clear within yourself about what
Then, bring to the conversation an understanding
that you two might want to change and any propose agreements
like to make with her.
Make your decision.
Ultimately, you need to decide whether to stay in this
or to leave it.
There are plenty of examples of couples who
rebuilt trust and their relationship after lying and
There are plenty of couples who have drifted apart from one
and then turned things around.
There are also plenty of examples of couples who, for
reason, were not able to rebuild trust and regain their
You need to weigh your collection of facts and reliable
and listen well to yourself and to what you want most for
future. This will help you decide your next move.
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