Add Spark to Your Relationship by Doing
By Susie and Otto Collins
Are you looking for ways to spice up the romance and passion
in your relationship? Perhaps you and your partner have been
working hard to rebuild trust or improve communication in
your marriage or love relationship.
Isn't it time to have some fun reveling in the love you
We think so!
Especially if you and your love have been together for
awhile, your interactions might fall into regular and usual
patterns. There's nothing wrong with this.
Some people really appreciate knowing that they can count on
Friday night as "date night," for example.
When you do something unexpected, however, you can add extra
spark to your connecting. Of course, surprises are just one
way to infuse more romance and passion into your
But it's one worth exploring.
As you surprise your partner with an activity, gesture or
even gift that he or she wasn't expecting, you both can
enjoy the aftereffects. Your love may be touched by your
thoughtfulness or inventiveness.
He or she might also feel more excited as you connect and
enjoy the surprise together.
For your surprise to make the biggest positive impact, they
need to be said or done from the heart.
If you are trying to
be more romantic yet you are feeling distracted or
uncomfortable by whatever you have chosen to do, your love
will undoubtedly sense this.
Choose and act from the heart and from a place of love with
a sense of adventure possibly thrown in as well.
Unexpected romantic gestures don't have to cost a dime to
As the saying goes, "the best things in life are free."
This applies quite well to romance and spark in your
relationship. It's not necessary for you to spend lots of
money on expensive gifts if a closer relationship is what
Here are a few ideas you might try...
*When you and your mate are apart, perhaps at work, you
might call to say "I love you."
Make the call in the middle of the afternoon for no other
reason than to just hear his or her voice and make that
connection over the physical distance.
*Go out of your way to show interest in something your
partner is passionate about.
You might not be as excited about gardening as your love is,
for instance. But you could walk outside, admire his or her
effort and creation and share what you appreciate about what
you are seeing and smelling.
There's nothing like an unanticipated compliment
to warm a person's heart!
*A tender physical touch can infuse an ordinary moment with
a little romance.
It doesn't matter if you are strolling through the park or
watching your kids play soccer on a Saturday afternoon.
Reach out and hold your partner's hand when he or she
wouldn't expect you to.
It is a way to share whatever you are experiencing together
more deeply and will also let your mate know that you are
wanting to be close even while cheering your kids on.
It's the thought (and heart) that counts most.
At times you might want to purchase a gift or do something
that involves spending money on your partner. This is
Especially if you are spending money, however, you probably
want to make sure that your surprise
gift will communicate your intention-- romance and
Consider these suggestions...
*Listen to your gut. Don't overthink it when purchasing a
surprise gift for your partner.
When shopping, release your worries that he or she will
dislike what you buy. Instead, allow yourself to get
wrapped up in how you feel
about your mate
Look around at the gift options you see (or think about) and
choose from the good-feeling place of
If money feels like an obstacle to you when purchasing a
gift, put more of your emphasis on the many many totally
free romantic gestures you can make and may already be
Comfort yourself by knowing that you are gift-
giving in these other ways as well.
You might also choose a store or particular set of gift
options that are within your price range and, returning to
the loving good-feeling emotions, allow yourself to be drawn
to the perfect choice from there.
*You might purchase-- or even make yourself-- a special card
for your love when it's not your anniversary, his or her
birthday or some other "official" occasion.
Express your feelings for your partner just because you feel
inspired to do so.
*What's more romantic than a dinner for two?
Whether you sweep him or her off to a favorite restaurant or
cook the meal yourself, there's something delightfully
romantic about sitting down together over a sumptuous meal.
If you two live together and your mate usually does the
cooking, surprise him or her by cooking a delicious meal.
Very simple and affordable to make meals can be enhanced
with herbs and spices and through presentation.
Watch a cooking show on television or search the internet
for hints. It might be a fun experience for you to expand
into areas you don't usually experience.
If all else fails, you can order food from your love's
favorite restaurant and create your own romantic ambiance
without having to worry about cooking!
Have fun with this because love and connection are
absolutely supposed to be fun! Allow yourself to get carried
away with ideas about how to surprise your mate with
Be aware that two can play at this...your partner might just
sweep you off your feet with something unexpectedly